We frequently have single friends over for dinner, and we love sharing life with them. They do the same for us. It’s hard for me to understand why single people are treated differently in the church when Paul says it’s better to be single - they are vibrant, important people of God with dreams and visions of their future in the same way that people with families and children are. Maybe if we focused more attention on discipleship than marriage, we’d have less married people who are struggling in their own homes. (Too sassy? Sorry.)
Our daughter has lots of aunts and uncles that aren’t blood related, and we hope it stays that way. It’s special getting to watch them exercise their gifts of wisdom and love toward us, and we love getting to do that for them, too, by including them in family routines. We don’t have family in town, so around the Holidays we will do a dinner with our closest friends and have them over for Ham or Ribs or something. It’s usually very chaotic, but by the time everyone leaves my face is sore from smiling so much!
I love how your posts are always thought provoking 🫶🏼
It's not too sassy. I'm constantly confused at the way we treat single people. And I deeply agree about focusing on discipleship. I think that would do more for our marriages than most marriage material. If we acted like people who followed Christ in our marriages, some things would work themselves out. I love that you all are building that wonderful community; it will be such a gift to Eve as she's growing up!
1) never been more jealous that you have access to the Fuller library on hand
2) I think we tend to take Jesus’ vision of family from spiritual and non-dependence on marriage, and shrink it back down to blood relationships and marriage. I wonder how that is going for us? I feel like it’s going bad.
One way we try to live this out and demonstrate it to our kids is by prioritizing spending Christian holidays with our church family. So, we don’t travel to visit far flung family for Christmas or Easter. Thanksgiving and summer are for that.
This topic matters so much to me as a single woman, Lisa. Thank you for writing about it! And thanks for the reminder to read Households of Faith. Going to order it today.
We frequently have single friends over for dinner, and we love sharing life with them. They do the same for us. It’s hard for me to understand why single people are treated differently in the church when Paul says it’s better to be single - they are vibrant, important people of God with dreams and visions of their future in the same way that people with families and children are. Maybe if we focused more attention on discipleship than marriage, we’d have less married people who are struggling in their own homes. (Too sassy? Sorry.)
Our daughter has lots of aunts and uncles that aren’t blood related, and we hope it stays that way. It’s special getting to watch them exercise their gifts of wisdom and love toward us, and we love getting to do that for them, too, by including them in family routines. We don’t have family in town, so around the Holidays we will do a dinner with our closest friends and have them over for Ham or Ribs or something. It’s usually very chaotic, but by the time everyone leaves my face is sore from smiling so much!
I love how your posts are always thought provoking 🫶🏼
Hey fwen
It's not too sassy. I'm constantly confused at the way we treat single people. And I deeply agree about focusing on discipleship. I think that would do more for our marriages than most marriage material. If we acted like people who followed Christ in our marriages, some things would work themselves out. I love that you all are building that wonderful community; it will be such a gift to Eve as she's growing up!
1) never been more jealous that you have access to the Fuller library on hand
2) I think we tend to take Jesus’ vision of family from spiritual and non-dependence on marriage, and shrink it back down to blood relationships and marriage. I wonder how that is going for us? I feel like it’s going bad.
The sarcasm killed me, Ben. And the Fuller library is worth the jealousy, but you should probably take that to Jesus.
One way we try to live this out and demonstrate it to our kids is by prioritizing spending Christian holidays with our church family. So, we don’t travel to visit far flung family for Christmas or Easter. Thanksgiving and summer are for that.
That's really beautiful, Tabitha! I don't think I'd ever heard anyone express it that way and I love it.
This topic matters so much to me as a single woman, Lisa. Thank you for writing about it! And thanks for the reminder to read Households of Faith. Going to order it today.
I want it to matter to all of us! I hope you enjoy the book!